A disciple of the elect saints and ladies of the land.  May my words move your spirit.  Too many times I have seen well-intentioned men twist the scriptures without knowing somewhat of the history of the time and place that the words were spoken by our Lord Christ before He was crucified.  The Bible is built on precept upon precept from the Old Testament to the New Testament. So lets journey back in time to Jerusalem together.
Apologetics:  What it means to speak in tongues.
ref: AVKJ [Gen.19:1-8]; Matthew Henry Commentaries; [1Cor.14. 9-11]

Babel means Confusion

It was about 150 yrs after the flood that the descendants of Noah traveled to the land of Shinar = “country of two rivers”.  Shinar is today recognized to be Babylon or Chaldea.
(2) And the whole earth was of one language, and of one speech.
Since the time of the flood, men started getting wicked; wickedness always increases over time.  God’s purpose was that mankind should form many nations, and people all lands.  In contempt of the Divine will, and against the counsel of Noah, the bulk of mankind united to build a city and a tower to prevent their separating.  Idolatry was begun, and Babel became one of its chief seats.  They made one another more daring and resolute. Let us learn to provoke one another to love and to good works, as sinners stir up and encourage one another to wicked works.
(4) And they said, Go to, let us build us a city and a tower, whose top may reach unto heaven; and let us make us a name, lest we be scattered abroad upon the face of the whole earth.
So the Lord seeing men’s wickedness was unrestrained; He came down and down and gave them all different languages and scattered the people across the face of the earth.
 (7) Go to, let us go down, and there confound their language, that they may not understand one another’s speech.
   (8) So the LORD scattered them abroad from thence upon the face of all the earth: and they left off to build the city.
 God has various means, and effectual ones, to baffle and defeat the projects of proud men that set themselves against him, and particularly he divides them among themselves.  Notwithstanding, their union and obstinacy, God was above them; for who ever hardened his heart against Him, and prospered?  Their language was confounded.  We all suffer by it to this day; in all the pains and trouble used to learn the languages we have occasion for, we suffer for the rebellion of our ancestors at Babel. God is able to blast and bring to naught all the devices and designs of Babel-builders there is no wisdom nor counsel against the Lord.  The children of men never did, nor ever will, come all together again until the great day, when the Son of man shall sit upon the throne of his glory, and all nations shall be gathered before him.
What cannot be understood, never can edify. No advantage can be reaped from the most excellent discourses if delivered in a language such as the hearers cannot speak or understand. Every ability or possession is valuable in proportion to its usefulness. Even fervent, spiritual affection must be governed by the exercise of the understanding, else men will disgrace the truths they profess to promote
 “Yet in the church, I had rather speak five words with my understanding, that by my voice I might teach others also, than ten thousand words in an unknown tongue”
To speak in tongues, saints, is a great gift, to be able to convey the words of Christ in another language.  However to speak gibberish and call that the indwelling of the Holy Spirit is blasphemy.  Does nothing to edify Christ or the congregation.  It is merely self-spiritual edification for the person to make himself the center of attention in the congregation.
To the elect ladies, this is one reason you are to remain quiet in church.  The indwelling of the Holy Spirit will always be greater in you then in the children of men.  This by virtue you birth life, nourish life and protect life. You are the tree of Life; you will protect the children of men. You birth Christ same as Mary birth Christ in the womb the analogy is the same. Rebirth yourself in Christ and follow the indwelling of the Holy Spirit.  When you get home from church ask questions of your spouse if something does not sound right. Then ask your Father in heaven for an answer. That is your responsibility to teach the children around you.

Talk to your Father, ask questions and read the Word.